There are many different ways to go about adoption. The four most common are international adoption, domestic infant adoption, foster to adopt, and embryo adoption. Many of these options are quite expensive and all of them are time consuming and takes a toll on the heart.
International adoption means adopting outside of the US. This is one of the most expensive forms of adoption, usually ranges between $25,000 and $35,000. All types of adoption involve legal matters and fees. Since you are dealing with more than one country the legal fees are most expensive with this type of adoption. Also, you have to pay for airfare, hotel stays, meals while traveling. This often has the longest wait time as they get both governing countries on board. Since some countries do not have as ethical laws as we do in America, there are possibilities that information about the child may not be one hundred percent accurate. Some countries have tighter laws than others.
Embryo adoption is a fourth kind of adoption. Instead of adopting a child that is already born, you are adopting embryos that were created for ivf cycles, but were chosen not to be used for reasons unknown. This is a great option if you want to experience pregnancy, but either you or your partner are unable to create life the natural way. This also prevents the destruction of embryos that biological parents no longer want, which preserves life.
Domestic infant adoption means adopting within the US. There are numerous companies that provide services for infant adoptions. Some allow you to adopt anywhere across the US, while others only deal within your immediate area. Expenses are generally between 10,000 and 20,000. If you adopt outside of your own state, you will also have to pay for hotel stays and airfare, as you await the legal matter to end. This could be up to a week or two stay.
Usually a birth mother chooses the family, and she gets to choose whether she wants the relationship to be open, closed, or semi-open. Open means that both parties are actively involved in that child's life. semi-open means that photos and letters may be sent to the birth family, whereas closed refers to no contact between birth and adoptive family members.
Foster to Adopt
Foster to adopt can be done in two different ways. One is where you are adopting children whose parents have already had their rights terminated. These children, for whatever reason are unable to stay with their foster family and are placed up for adoption. Many of these have many siblings and would like to be placed together or have emotional, physical, mental disabilities that the foster family is unable to care for. This is not always the case.
The other way to do foster to adopt is by being a foster parent to children. If you choose this option it is important for you to understand that the goal for all foster children is to reunite them with their biological family in a safe loving environment. Unfortunately, not all families are able to rehabilitate and it is at that time you are able to adopt those children. Although all of these options involve a lot of heartache and frustration, this one is the most apt to be unsuccessful. The benefit is that the adoption process is nearly free. There are some legal fees for the actual adoption, but these are often offset by foster care payments while the child is in care, as well as some children considered special needs, you will receive an adoption subsidy that will be money the child receives after the child legally becomes part of the family