I am pro-life, but even more than that, I am right-to-life. That means, I believe that all embryos created, should be given the opportunity to live. Each facility, we have ever talked to, all were very strong right-to-life advocates. This included atheist and Christian doctors. My favorite doctor was an atheist and yet the most vocal of his right-to-life stance. I point this out, because I think people assume pro-life is a Christian thing. It's not. You can be an atheist and pro-life, you can be a feminist and pro-life, it just means that you value all life, no matter the developmental stage. I'm not trying to start a debate, or push my values onto you, but I have my beliefs, you have yours, that's fine. The purpose is to inform people about what I found during my research when deciding to do IVF.
Within each of these fertility clinics, they will not destroy embryos, nor send them to a medical research facility. People can choose to take them somewhere else to be destroyed, they must allow this by law, but they will not do it themselves.
In our fertility treatment, all embryos, regardless of viability, will be implanted either back into us, or donated to an infertile couple (assuming they outlive us.) Only two will be implanted at a time. Every clinic we talked to has this same practice. They only do three if the mother is older, and implantation is less likely. This prevents a high number of multiples.
Embryos created through IVF also have a higher chance of implanting than those that have been created naturally. An embryo fertilized naturally has a 20 percent chance of implanting itself on the wall of the uterus, whereas one fertilized in a lab has a 45 percent chance of implantation. I'm not sure how they could have possibly gotten the first statistic, but it is believed to be true.
I understand not everyone agrees to the use of IVF as a fertility treatment, but it's not a decision we have made lightly. We have researched, prayed, and sought wise counsel. There are reasons, we are choosing not to do infant adoption first, which I probably will not share on a blog, as it may be the choice we choose in the future.