A friend told me a really good quote. I'm not going to say it right, but the gist is "It's not about the great things you do, but about the continual good things you do that create a great person."
I love that and I think it is true. Jesus did some really great things, like heal the sick, bring Lazarus back to life, die on the cross, raise again, but it's not those things we try to do to emulate him, it's the other stuff, the everyday good stuff, the stuff he did out of love. He talked with the people that most of us would have avoided, he was willing to touch people who others were afraid of, he was willing to put the needs of others ahead of his own personal image, he loved people regardless of race, religion, occupation, lifestyle.
Truth is, I fail daily, yet I wake each day trying to be better than I was the day before. Each day brings new learning moments. I am continuously trying to learn patience with family members. That's the hardest for me. I am patient with everyone, except the people I love the most. I end up saying I'm sorry more often than I would like to admit. But the one thing I always keep in mind is how I can love people. I think that's what I love about Jesus, he loved people. He didn't care if they had sores all over their body making them uncomfortable to look at, he didn't care if they were believers or nonbelievers, he didn't care that their past was marred with mistakes and failures, he just loved them.
When I was younger, I tried to be a good person by not doing "bad" things. When your goal is not to do "bad" things, you lose sight of what's really important, and lose out on a lot of joy in life. I am not saying if I had done "bad" things, I would have had more joy, but my focus was all wrong. For one you become very legalistic that way, judgementality creeps up, and you constantly feel like a failure, because inevitably you do do "bad things."
I have learned that loving people was way more important than any other thing the Bible teaches. When we are so busy loving others, the bad stuff disappears on its own.
If you look at every single one of the ten commandments, you would find that they all have one thing in common, if you truly loved everyone with a perfect love, then you would not break a single one of those commandments. You cannot be loving towards someone and steal from them, lie about them, murder them, covet their wife/cow/etc.
I know I fail at times, but we all do. If we didn't, we wouldn't be on this side of heaven, but tomorrow, I will try to love better than I did today.
After six years of infertility, she was blessed with the adoption of her oldest daughter who now is a teenager. Six years later, she finally became a mother a second time, this time with a baby through a donated egg and ivf. Throughout that time, she fostered nine babies and toddlers, met wonderful women who helped her grow, and learned to rely on Jesus. She started this blog with the hope that she could share her joy, experience, and willingness to grow with others, whether they battle infertility, toddlers, or teens.