• Home
  • Blessed Life Blog
    • Blog
    • Blog by Little Miss
    • Interviews with Blogger Moms!!!
    • My Original Blog
  • My Minimalism Journey
  • Home-school Curriculum
    • Home-school Curriculum
    • Free Homeschooling Curriculum
    • Educational Articles for your Student >
      • Extra Curricular
      • Fun Craft Ideas
      • Language Arts
      • Parenting/Teaching
      • Science
      • Social Studies
  • About
    • About the Blessed Life Mom
    • About The Blessed Life Family
  • Email Me
BLESSED LIFE WITH CHILDREN

The Day Before Retrieval: An IVF Update

6/28/2014

1 Comment

 
Picture
Tomorrow, my future children (assuming they result in pregnancy) will be conceived (during church - just not at church, so they most likely will be angelic beings, my friend Dawn told me so!) 

This thought has reminded me of the statistic I have often heard that only 20 percent of naturally made embryos result in pregnancy - half in which miscarry, so I am trying to think positive when I think my chances are 54 percent per embryo although miscarriage rate is comparable. 

The medicine I took last night has probably been the most potent of the drugs I've been on. I have been tired all day with slight nausea. I also am severely bloated, very uncomfortable. I am looking forward to tomorrow to remove this feeling that a bowling ball is sitting on my pelvis. 

Tomorrow, they will remove the eggs, by Monday they will be able to tell me how many were healthy eggs and how many they fertilized. Kevin and I get to determine the cap amount (the most we'd be willing to have fertilized). The only reason it would be different than that amount is if eggs don't fertilize, which is a very real possibility. Even when an egg and sperm meet, that does not always result in an embryo - magic has to happen (in the words of the nurse). So many variables, so many things to affect the outcome.  

I am not nervous, just uncomfortable. I'll be taking a cocktail of meds in the morning, a valium tonight, and then they will give me a similar drug they give to those having a colonoscopy. 

Then we wait... for two months... minimum. 

1 Comment

Rough Day: AN IFV Update

6/27/2014

0 Comments

 
Picture
Today was my third ultrasound this week. Everyone was super nice and happy, maybe because it was Friday. I didn't see the doctor I hired, but a different one. It was fine by me. Still prefer the small business feel, but this is okay. 

I went in and was glad to see the same ultrasound nurse. I really like her, she remembers me, and the familiarity makes me feel comfortable. Before she did any measurements she said, "Wow, you are so close to being able to do IVF." She shared her own story, she now has twins. Later, as I walked through the halls, a few other nurses I've met along the way, mentioned they heard how close I was, which made me feel special and gave me that small business feel. I'm also curious how many people were there as the ultrasound tech talked to the doctor, but hey, I liked it. 

Back to the ultrasound, after checking my eggs, she then went to look at the uterus, and said, "Oh, bummer, it doesn't look like its going to happen this month." She made this news not feel so bad with her sweet demeanor and charming talk. She had me sit in a consult room, where I waited for the doctor. I felt good about what she shared with me, just a little bummed. 

I got Dr. D today, which is by far my favorite doctor, and the one I've seen most frequently. He also gave me similar news. I felt good about it... well that is until I left and reality sunk in. 


Read More
0 Comments

A New Focus: IVF Update

6/22/2014

0 Comments

 
Picture
Today, I am on day five (or is it six?) of my shots. Tomorrow. I go in for another ultrasound and blood work. My last results were all good. I'd give you the stats, but they wouldn't mean much to you. 

I'm focusing on laying low. At the beginning of the shots, my body reacted harshly and I had trouble handling the emotions that came with it. The last two days I have felt like myself. I feel in control of my mood and my thoughts. This was a relief since I upped one of the hormones and started a third. I thought for sure it would keep me in my funk. I now take one shot in the morning and two at night.

My saving grace is my babysitting jobs. They keep me busy and keep my mind off of everything. I'm trying to plan lots of activities, hoping that it will keep me from thinking.

Physically, I feel cramping. Truth is I feel cramping ninety five percent of days (slight exaggeration), which is in part due to scar tissue from my past surgeries, cysts, and who knows what else. Although this seems a little more pronounced, so I think its related to the hormones. 

I have read that you often will have pregnancy symptoms while doing the shots, truth is I have none of the typical pregnancy symptoms, unless not being able to think clearly and rationally is one of them. 

Despite this being the biggest thing in my life at the moment, my mind has been on one of three topics, none of which have anything to do with pregnancy or IVF. It's amazing, no matter how big our stresses and worries are, there is someone going through far worse. Pregnancy or not, I am blessed. 

I know if I get pregnant, my life will only change for the better. If I don't, its not like my life will be forever altered. What this tells me, if my biggest problem today will only end in one of two ways, neither being irreparable damage to my heart or life, then I need to thank God for this unique experience. My thoughts and prayers are with people who are having true hardships. 

Please continue to pray for Little Miss (she is getting hopeful... yay), that it will result in a pregnancy, that I can maintain clear thinking, and if it doesn't work that we will know what direction God would like us to go from there. 

0 Comments

Being Transparent... Emotionally: An IVF Update

6/19/2014

3 Comments

 
Picture
Maybe it's the hormones, maybe its because today is the first moment I have had a chance to stop and reflect on the process, but the emotions have hit... and they have hit hard. 

Am I excited... no! 

Am I scared... like you wouldn't believe. 

I don't want to do this again. I don't want to hear yet another no. I am so afraid that at the end of all this, I will have gone through it all for nothing. I don't believe its going to work  (yet at times I do), and I need someone to believe for me during the times I am too weak. I need a hug. I need to be allowed not to smile. I need to be allowed to just cry without anyone hearing or seeing. I am afraid that if I announce that I don't think it will work, that I will jinx it and it won't work, because I've showed doubt. I'm afraid to post this, because people will think I'm less than who they thought I was. I'm afraid to say goodbye to yet another means of growing a family. I am afraid my life will not be the life I thought it would be. I am afraid that if I let myself cry, I won't stop. I am afraid if I admit that I don't want to do this, people will think I shouldn't. I am afraid it will work, but I will miscarry. I am afraid of a stillborn. I am afraid of a premature baby. I am afraid of child with a life threatening defect. I am afraid people will tell me not to fear because fear is not from God. I am afraid I will damage relationships, because I'm not thinking clearly. I am afraid if I let people know my fears, they will say I am a complainer. I am afraid people will know I am afraid. I am afraid... 

Truth is things don't work out for me. This is mostly pessimism, but there is a lot of truth to it too.  For the most part, I love where my life has lead, but things don't turn out. Even in my strongest moment, I'm well aware I'm just seconds away from my life being completely and utterly changed forever. All of ours are, really. 

I don't want to hear any platitudes. I don't want to hear, "be strong," "don't worry." 

I want to hear you can be weak, I will be strong for you. 

I am weak. I am afraid, I am alone. 

I was told once, its good to be transparent. This is me being transparent at this moment. An hour from now, I probably will be laughing and strong. I will be optimistic and excited. That is me most the time. 

But right now, this is me. 

3 Comments

Started the IVF Shots Today

6/18/2014

0 Comments

 
Picture
Tomorrow night, between six and eight, I will give myself the first two shots for IVF. 

I feel weird saying this, but I am not excited, scared, nervous, or any of the expected feelings. In fact, I have not put much thought into it. Maybe it's the ten years that led up to this. I have gone through such a gamut of emotions that I don't have any left. 

Or maybe, it's because it doesn't seem real. You know the first few days after someone dies. You know they are gone, you know you will never see them again, but the pain and grief have not yet hit you.

Or maybe it's because there is a part of me that figures this whole ordeal won't result in a child. I couldn't tell you how many times we have thought that our family was going to grow, we waited, we expected, and then nothing. 

So many people are sure that we are going to get pregnant. They obviously have not gone through what I have, because they wouldn't share the same optimism if they had. It's refreshing and makes me happy. I truly appreciate everyone's support. This was our main reason for sharing. To be positive when we are not feeling it, and being there if it does not work. Either way, we have to mentally prepare ourselves for both if it doesn't work or if it does work.  

I've been thinking of names again, which says there is a part of me that thinks it will work. I also have been considering my options if it doesn't. I have even thought of having Little Miss be an only child. There is a point when you do need to give up the pursuit - when you need to prepare yourself for the rest of your life. Ironically, Kevin and I have not discussed it. 

So tomorrow, life will go on as normal. I will be busy, busy, busy. Pause, give myself the shots, go back to life. 

I'm sure the feelings will hit me. I'm sure they are brewing somewhere inside me. Even though I stopped to write this blog. My thoughts have gone in and out of the other things going on in my life. Maybe its good I'm so busy these days. It keeps me from obsessing, worrying, stressing. 

Still, please pray. Pray it will work, pray that we will be emotionally fine, and by the way, I know in the past I had said I didn't want to talk about it. I now feel comfortable, feel free to ask questions. I am at peace with things and less anxious about questions. Also, don't forget to pray for Little Miss in all this. This process will effect her in unique ways. 

0 Comments

Latest IVF Appointment

6/13/2014

0 Comments

 
Picture
I have yet to meet with my actual IVF doctor. Every appointment seems to be more convenient for every other doctor than the one I actually hired. So today, I met with his associate (Dr. D) , whom ironically was my first choice, but was too busy when I picked doctors. 

This neither upsets me nor annoys me, but rather a reminder of why I preferred my original fertility doctor. He met with me every time. 

This new place is run more like a big business, which is something I generally avoid. I sometimes meet with just a nurse never even seeing a doctor. The nurses change from visit to visit, the consultation specialist is never the same, and so far I have met with a doctor three times, and all three times there was a different doctor. This doesn't exactly bother me, but makes me feel disconnected from the office. I was very attached to my last doctor and his nurses, even his office staff. At this new place, I'm just another patient. They don't know my story, just my chart. That's okay, but I do miss the personal connection with a doctor. 


Read More
0 Comments

10 Things I'd Like To Teach My Daughter

6/4/2014

0 Comments

 
Picture

Read More
0 Comments

Not What I Wanted To Hear: An IVF Update

6/4/2014

0 Comments

 
Picture
I had an appointment today for IVF.

The Plan: Do an ultrasound, meet with nurse, decide IVF start date. 

Outcome: Did an ultrasound, met with nurse, did not decide IVF start date, because... 
  • I have a 5 cm cyst on my left ovary, along with a smaller one. 
  • I have fluid in my uterus, believed to be a result of cyst. 
  • Estrogen levels are most likely abnormal, which throws off plans. 


Therefore, I get to go again, next Friday, where they will assess whether my cyst has shrunk. If it has, then we may just wait until it disappears. If it has not, then I get to have it drained. Either way, the minimum delay is about a week and a half. So instead of a mid-June date, we are looking at a late June early July date. 

Not exactly what I wanted to hear, but I could have gotten worse news. I'm only mildly concerned. Just another day in the waiting game. I've waited four years (since we adopted Emily) and ten years since I first tried get pregnant. What is another week and a half. Right? 


Read More
0 Comments
    Picture
    Trade Books for Free - PaperBack Swap.
    About the Author

      Subscribe To The Newsletter Here! 

    Submit

    Archives

    April 2018
    March 2018
    February 2018
    January 2018
    December 2017
    February 2017
    February 2016
    January 2016
    December 2015
    November 2015
    September 2015
    May 2015
    April 2015
    March 2015
    December 2014
    October 2014
    September 2014
    August 2014
    July 2014
    June 2014
    May 2014
    April 2014
    March 2014
    February 2014

    Categories

    All
    Adoption
    Bible Study
    Children
    Christian Walk
    Chronic Illness
    Deals
    Education
    Friendship
    Homeschool
    Infertility
    In Vitro
    LASIK
    Life And Truth
    Little Miss
    Original Blog
    Pregnancy
    Pro-life
    Video Blogs

    RSS Feed

Powered by
Photos used under Creative Commons from THphoto8888, donnierayjones, Daddy-David, Chendragon2, mateus,, Robert S. Donovan, David Rinaldi, Ly Thien Hoang (Lee), Nina Matthews Photography, Schwangerschaft, Accretion Disc, jumpinjimmyjava, Sweet Carolina Photography, beltz6, Nina Matthews Photography, Minhimalism, lunar caustic, tx_mattster, 欠我兩千塊, phalinn, Daddy-David, BrownGuacamole, Live to Create Photography, Wonderlane, mkhmarketing, chefranden, DKG Images, bradleyolin, Waiting For The Word, paul.orear, James Willamor, Morning theft, lookcatalog, jpalinsad360, Purple Sherbet Photography, symphony of love, Accretion Disc, that one doood, Rob Briscoe, Epicantus, spinster cardigan, bluebirdsandteapots, Randy Kashka, SweetOnVeg, Joe Dyndale, Focus Laser Vision
✕