So today I was reading the Matt Walsh blog. Regardless of whether you agree with his politics or tone, I found his article about modesty thought provoking.
The thing is, my husband and I have also been talking about this concept quite a bit. My husband probably best described "modesty (as)... not bringing attention to yourself."
Truth is, I had never heard of this definition of modesty. If you would have asked me, I would have described modesty as covering up all necessary parts.
It seems like in my life, God always has a way of teaching me something repeatedly in a short time. Usually, I'll find it in my devotions, then at church, then a random friend. Well, this week, through my husband and a blog, I've begun growing tired of.
I'm beginning to realize that there are areas where I need to become more modest. My blog, for one, my Facebook statuses. I'm not saying just talking about yourself is immodest, but how you talk and present yourself can be.
If you are like me and often look to see what the secular definition of things is as well as the biblical definition, you might find the dictionary.com definition of modesty.
Is it sad that at the age of 32, I was unaware of what the definition of modesty is? The definitions that stick out to me are "freedom from... boastfulness," "regard for decency of behavior, speech...," and "moderation."
Before you think, I will be dressing in tent dresses and shutting down my blog and Facebook page, I want to point out what modesty is not.
1 Timothy 2:8-10 states,
I desire…that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, but with what is proper for women who profess godliness—with good works.
Note that it actually says, "women should adorn themselves..." This means, God doesn't mind when we want to look pretty. In fact, that is how he wired us. Looking pretty is okay and good. He is not saying we should not braid our hair or wear pearls and gold, because these are cultural references to the time. During that time, doing these things and wearing these items was quite showy. Today, wearing a braid isn't going to cause people's heads to turn, but there are hairstyles that will.
My definition of modesty, is not going to translate to those who are not believers in God. So if you come across this and feel that I'm being judgmental, I do not hold these standards to anyone, but myself. I am a believer in the one true God. So everything I should do, should be honoring to Him. I cannot hold anyone else to those same rules, because I don't know their hearts. But, if you are like me and want to please the Lord, this is what I believe modesty is.
The point of modesty is not to bring attention to yourself, but to profess godliness, just as the verse points out. If what I wear or how I wear my hair is detracting from the good works I am doing, I am being immodest. If what I say or what I do is bringing attention to myself and away from God, I am being immodest. If I am doing good works, so people think better of me, then I am doing good works immodestly.
Honestly, I believe wearing tent dresses in our society can actually be a form of immodesty. It all depends on the motive when wearing it, as is with most things. Tent dresses bring attention to oneself. If the person wearing it, is trying to prove their godliness in their clothes, rather than trying to honor God in their actions, then they are dressed immodestly.
Truth is, I'm not trying to condemn anyone for what they are wearing or doing, because I believe what really matters is the heart behind the dress and the action. The only heart I know, is my own, so I don't have room to judge your intentions.
Being a Christian, I have seen where my heart does not align with being modest, but rather trying to build my own image. That is the mere definition of immodesty. I hope by sharing my own revelation and struggle, that someone else may reevaluate their motives and actions. Who are you trying to build up?
After six years of infertility, she was blessed with the adoption of her oldest daughter who now is a teenager. Six years later, she finally became a mother a second time, this time with a baby through a donated egg and ivf. Throughout that time, she fostered nine babies and toddlers, met wonderful women who helped her grow, and learned to rely on Jesus. She started this blog with the hope that she could share her joy, experience, and willingness to grow with others, whether they battle infertility, toddlers, or teens.