I believe that women should get paid equal to men for equal work.
I believe that women should be valued as much as men are valued.
I believe women should not be judged if they choose to work rather than have children or vice versa.
I believe that women should be able to choose what is best for their family, whether it be working in the home, outside the home, or some variation.
I believe that all women should have the right to life, whether they are just a few cells big or one hundred years young.
I believe that women should be allowed all the rights that a man has.
In many ways, I am a feminist, although you will never hear me use the term to define myself.
The problem I have with the term is because I believe that a loud minority of feminists make claims that contradict what I believe.
I believe that women and men should be treated equally. We should have equal opportunities. We should have equal value. Although, equality does not mean sameness. There are inherent feminine qualities that women often have more than men, just like there are inherent masculine qualities that men tend to have more than women. This does not mean that there are not exceptions to the rule. I'm not saying a women who tends to be on the masculine side is less than a women who is very feminine. I AM saying that we should be valued based on our own individual qualities.
I AM a very feminine woman. I like very traditional roles and act in very old-fashioned ways. I should not be ashamed of that.
Too often, I have encountered criticism for my choices and my way of life by a loud minority of feminists who believe equality means we should be like men.
Why can't a woman choose to be the sole caretaker for her child, if she is financially, emotionally, and physically capable of doing so?
Just as there are a loud minority of feminists who bash feminine qualities, there are a loud minority of feminine women who bash the life choices of women who do not fit into the stereotypical female role.
I believe we need to have a middle ground. A term that defines the woman who supports all women, the advancements of women, the freedom of women, the equal treatment of women.
The one thing I will say is that I believe in Love. I believe that we should love every person, regardless of belief, religion, choices, circumstance, nationality, family, etc. Every person is of value. I agree with the feminist movement, I just can't identify myself with the loud minority that refers to my choices as archaic, regressive, or irrelevant. I believe, we women, need to start a new movement that continues to fight for our equal treatment, yet celebrates our beautiful differences. I hope I have not offended half my friends with this post... because it is my support of them, their beliefs, their rights, that I write this.
After six years of infertility, she was blessed with the adoption of her oldest daughter who now is a teenager. Six years later, she finally became a mother a second time, this time with a baby through a donated egg and ivf. Throughout that time, she fostered nine babies and toddlers, met wonderful women who helped her grow, and learned to rely on Jesus. She started this blog with the hope that she could share her joy, experience, and willingness to grow with others, whether they battle infertility, toddlers, or teens.