Above all else, I am learning how and when to use my voice. Growing up, I didn't speak and later learned to be open. Then needed to learn when to be quiet. There's value in both and knowing when each is necessary is key.
Truth is I struggle a lot with small things. I have learned we all do in our own ways. I try and I improve. I look to God, mentors, scripture, and books. I use to think I was unique in my insecurities, but now know we all struggle. I struggle making casual friendships. I long to have those friendships that you can just sit next to and chat for the sake of chatting. When I do try, people leave the conversation or the talk goes dead. Then there are others who long for deep friendships, but don't have them. I have those.
The older I get the more I recognize that we all are struggling. We all have insecurities. We are not unique and alone. Yes, there are things I wish I could change about me, but more than anything I have learned that others seldom care where I fall short, they are just hoping to have that person walk alongside them ignoring where they fall short. They want to know they have value, just as I wish to know my own worth.